Steamy songs work.
Researchers tell us that romantic songs nearly double the likelihood that single women will agree to give men their phone numbers.
And music works for those of us in relationships too. Music does a pretty good job of expressing affection, amorous intention, and other feelings that can be screwed up by mere words.
Obviously we react to music we like and to lyrics that make us feel. Music engages our bodies, often helping us move out of our heads to a more sensory level. It gets to us in ways we aren’t consciously aware of as well. In This Is Your Brain on Music Daniel Levitin describes what happens as we listen. Imaging studies show that activated nerves signal from the auditory system to activate expectation and reward centers in the brain. In fact the pleasure we take in music causes our dopamine levels to rise, and we all want more of that feel-good neurochemical.
I asked friends to tell me their favorite sexy tunes. We noted there’s a significant crossover with love songs, because adoration is definitely a turn on. And it was surprising how many we had to weed out to eliminate exceedingly creepy, depressing, and misogynistic lyrics.
A more basic question remains. What music sounds sexy to you? Is it the beat, the lyrics, the overall tone? Or does it have more to do with memories you attach to the piece?
Offer your suggestions.
Here are a few of ours. Not in order and not by any means comprehensive.
I heard a blind man screaming, say
There goes a sight for my sore eyes.
I’ll rock you till the daylight comes
Make sure you are smilin’ and warm
I want to know what you got to say
I can tell you taste like the sky ’cause you look like rain
I don’t want you to be true
I just want to make love to you
Lay lady lay, lay across my big brass bed.
Stay lady stay, stay with your man awhile.
What a wicked thing to do
To let me dream of you
I want a man to rock me
Like my… backbone was his own
If you want so satisfy my soul,
Come on and rock me with a steady roll
I want to hold the hand inside you
I want to take a breath that’s true
I’m gonna take you girl and hold you
And do all the things I told you
You dance when you walk so let’s dance, take a chance, understand me
You’re dirty sweet and you’re my girl.
But while she’s there waiting
Try just a little bit of tenderness
So slide over here, and give me a moment
Your moves are so raw
The candy sweetness scent of you
It bathes my skin I’m stained by you
Let me feel you moving like they do in Babylon
Show me slowly what I only know the limits of
Never know how much I love you, never know how much I care
When you put your arms around me, I get a fever that’s so hard to bear
Ya, when she wakes me
She takes me back home
You fill my eager heart with such desire
Every kiss you give sets my soul on fire
You know you shook me
You shook me all night long
Touch me like the blind read Braille
Alright now let’s turn it up
Every day do like a flower does
Comme la vague irrésolu
Je vais je vais et je viens
I want you to stay
Ooh, I want you today
When the whole world fits inside of your arms
Don’t really need to pay attention to the alarm
Oh my love, my darling
I’ve hungered for your touch
Just for one moment
To be warm and naked at my side
You know when I’m down to my socks it’s time for business
That’s why they call them business socks